A simple way to know if something works is to try it out. If [thing or activity] does not work, you'll know. Now then, consider the ways of God. Specifically the ways of Love as told in 1 Corinthians 13.
1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 (NASB) says
4 Love is patient, love is kind, it is not jealous; love does not brag, it is not arrogant. 5 It does not act disgracefully, it does not seek its own benefit; it is not provoked, does not keep an account of a wrong suffered, 6 it does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 it keeps every confidence, it believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
I am going to walk you through some of the things here. I'm going to start with patience.